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May 26th, 2014

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Mood check: enraged enraged

This was posted elsewhere, in response to someone comparing women being afraid of men with racists being afraid of Muslims.  When called on it by another poster, he replied "I legitimately don't understand a lot of this, but it feels like talking to people who live in another world."  I exploded.


I do live in another world. I live in a world where I can't jog alone without some piece of shit shouting something sexual at me. I live in a world where my every fashion choice, interest, and action is assumed to be for the purpose of attracting men. I live in a world where video game store clerks ask me "And who is this game for?" because they automatically assume it could not possibly be for me. I live in a world where stating an opinion about a comic book is justification for being told I should be raped and killed, and in a world where such death threats will be completely ignored by authorities as a matter of course. I live in a world where I have to leave my husband at home if I want to go to Best Buy and ask questions about computer equipment because the clerks won't even make eye contact with me if there's a man they can talk to instead. I live in a world where I have to tell all the staff of a clinic or ER that I'm absolutely, positively sure that I'm not pregnant thirty-seven times before they will deign to take me at my word. I live in a world where salespeople ask if they can speak to the person in my family who can make purchasing decisions -- because it is automatically assumed that I cannot. I live in a world where politicians are trying to get between me and my doctor and they're no longer even bothering to pretend that it's for any other reason than to control me and make me less autonomous. I live in a world where one hundred fucking percent of fucking Republicans voted that I am LITERALLY not worth the same as a man in the workplace.

My caution, my fear, and my rage comes from daily personal experience. DAILY. Show me your hypothetical Islamophobe who can say the same.

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Date:May 27th, 2014 04:04 pm (UTC)
My wife says that one of the things that she likes being married to me is being able to sit through the credits of a movie. Prior to me, she'd leave with the bulk of the audience so she wouldn't risk being caught in the parking lot alone.

Sometimes 'civilization' sucks. When I worked retail, I always tried to treat women customers equally. But that was over 30 years ago, so who knows how well I did.